“It is a social norm that if someone texts you multiple times, they love you so much that they just can’t stop talking to you”.

What is coercive control?

Most women who are killed by their partners or ex-partners have previously been victims of coercive control, writes Deakin University professor Marilyn McMahon.
DARVO stands for 'Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.' Perpetrators often use DARVO to shame victims into believing they are responsible for the abuse.
"He would have gone to jail and had some of his entitlement taken from him.”
I feel our children will still be fighting the battles we are.
It is the month of Ramadan. My family is Muslim, and what would normally be a time of community building, sharing and reflection, has been overtaken by fear,...
We fermented barrels of sauerkraut for the Germans and Poles, kept the shelves stocked with spices for the Indians and Sri Lankans, and yerba-maté for the...

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Filipino-Australian story collection

Catch up on our stories of culture, family, and identity from emerging Filipino-Australian writers.?

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Look out for SBS drama?The Unusual Suspects?premiering?Thursday June 3.

As a minority, I resented being reduced to a bubble of perceived interests.
While the Aussie tongue is laidback, Tagalog-speakers are used to tackling real tongue-twisters.
What use is a beautiful Barong being chewed away by moths, waiting until someone dies or decides to tie the knot?
For nearly every birthday and milestone, whether it was a graduation or confirmation, there we were – posted up by the seafood section waiting for staff to...
Having been raised in a culture where eating could be considered a past time and food plays a central role during every occasion and event, it’s no surprise that...
When my daughter was finally old enough to read my books, I gave her a copy of each one. I have never been more scared about a reader’s feedback my whole life.
It dawned on me early on that I was a rare sighting on stage at those gigs - a gigging Filipino-Australian musician.

See What You Made Me Do

See What You Made Me Do?premieres 8:30pm Wednesday 5 May on SBS and SBS On Demand. The three-part series continues weekly, and every episode will be?simulcast on NITV. (Episodes will be repeated at 9.30pm Sundays on SBS VICELAND from 9 May).

“It is a social norm that if someone texts you multiple times, they love you so much that they just can’t stop talking to you”.

What is coercive control?

Most women who are killed by their partners or ex-partners have previously been victims of coercive control, writes Deakin University professor Marilyn McMahon.
"He would have gone to jail and had some of his entitlement taken from him.”
DARVO stands for 'Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.' Perpetrators often use DARVO to shame victims into believing they are responsible for the abuse.
"Once, he tried to throw (our dog) through an open door but she hit the glass. I’d be screaming on the inside.”
Gaslighters excel at manipulation, making it more difficult for victims to get help.
For people experiencing abusive relationships, often a big part of why leaving feels impossible is because of something psychologists call ‘trauma bonding’.

Culture & Society

Your stories. Your words.

Would you like to write for SBS Voices? Send us an email at voices@sbs.com.au?

The ‘first name’ ‘last name’ convention doesn’t apply to me or some people from South India, Malaysia, Indonesia, Iceland among others, who have patronymic names.
We can conclusively say that pairing a fancy dress with your sneakers is a pretty smart move.
Seeing men from different backgrounds changing up the stringent suit and bow-tie memo is not just a feast for the eyes but also a potent reminder that the Oscars...
Move countries and take something of your mother’s, and you realise that you have taken many things with it.
You don't have to be a celebrity to know that society is set up against women over 50.
The point is, it’s okay if you get the name wrong. But at least show the respect to have a go.
“In my opinion, police were set up for white people and it is for white people, so they can have their police,” says Veronica Gorrie, author of 'Black and Blue: A...

Health

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Beyond studies and research, we examine how our health impacts the rest of our lives.??

Your expectations about exercise can dominate your entire experience of how exercise feels.
My partner and I started with the smallest steps, into our small front garden, with blankets and books.
Despite the hurdles, there is a major bonus. Ballet brings me closer to my three-year-old, because we can do a Plié or Pirouette together.
“Exercise - despite its manifold benefits - requires overriding deep, natural instincts.”
The truth is, I’ve been depressed these last few months and that's why you haven't seen me.
"This is about dignity, it's about inclusivity."
“A couple of my friends who are the same age as me, had been thinking about it. It would come up at dinner and then the conversation would move on because at some...

Family

Parenting for modern families: new rules for a new age.

It is the month of Ramadan. My family is Muslim, and what would normally be a time of community building, sharing and reflection, has been overtaken by fear, isolation...
After initially vowing he would never cook on a BBQ again, Alex is back doing the thing he loves the most: getting on the coals and boasting about how his BBQ...
If there is one thing I can do though, it will be to continue talking about infertility so it’s not as shameful and taboo as it is today.
Instead of feeling that void, I began to reflect on my identity and my heritage - the parts that I do know.
There is a lot of pressure to ‘do Ramadan right’, but the baseline is always neurotypical and able-bodied. Here’s what to do if you find it harder to cope with...
Video games offer a flow of rewards, but you can’t compare to the rewarding experience of living life in the real world. When you give your brain a rest, you’re...
The hardest part was taking the iPad away from Rory. He screamed and begged for it every night.

Relationships

Let's talk about it all: from love and dating to divorce and estrangement (and everything in between).

Companies such as Canada’s DNA Romance and Instant Chemistry already claim to help people find love and sexual compatibility through DNA tests.
The world is slowly getting better at recognising the beauty in Asian men, writes Madalene Chu.
I’ve become a strong independent woman. I have travelled to the US, Australia, all over Asia, Argentina, and Spain all by myself. I never really minded the...
Without realising it, that lonely decade became a slow reclamation. Free of obligation to anyone but myself.
When Harry and Meghan revealed to Oprah Winfrey the emotional details of their break with the royal family, they were telling a tale as old as time, says...
As my father paused at a red light, he turned towards me and said, “you’re not allowed to have a boyfriend until you get married”.
My husband and I thought that we would sleep separately until the morning sickness stopped, but it never did.

Sweatshop Collective

A partnership with Western Sydney writers’ collective?Sweatshop, now in its second year, showcases stories from diverse perspectives.?

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The representation in 'Raya and the Last Dragon' is far from perfect, yet, I cried when Raya calls her father, “Ba".
The catchcry, “I’m trying to eat less carbs,” defined my 20’s. Yet, I never seem satisfied...Enter into this maelstrom of self-loathing: Nigella Lawson.
It wasn’t just the making of the food, it was the stories she told me while we prepared it.
I flew here with a one-way ticket vowing never to return. I tried to learn everything about the culture. Trying to ‘assimilate’ I became a St Kilda supporter...
Whilst many queer spaces centre sexual liberation, my birth mum maintains cultural values around sexual modesty.
Mixed heritage is a common reality for modern day Egyptians, who are as ethnically complex as our ancestor, Cleopatra. Yet, like the fabled Queen, we claim and...
Throughout my late teens and early 20s, the first response I usually got when I came out to people was, ‘What does your family think?’

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Do you have a story to share? Email us at voices@sbs.com.au

“I wanted [the book] to be feminist. It’s complicated with a trans perspective. I didn’t want to silence the female voice," Wilson tells writer Ellen van Neerven.
Finding out about Mandala has changed my perspective on growing up gay in a regional town and what it means to have a history of queer radical allies paving the...
The life of a teenager, especially a closeted one, is filled with confusion – dance was one thing that always made sense.
"I was black. I was gay. I was living in bloody Adelaide!"
"Transitioning has enabled me to be open to (unconditional love). God loves me just as I am. This is how he created me."
My fight or flight response activates the second I see an acquaintance in passing and my immediate reaction is to find a place to hide.
Playing football had become a way of keeping up appearances. I found guys were hesitant to challenge my sexuality if they saw I was participating in the same...

Read the winning entries

Of more than 2000 entries submitted to the inaugural Emerging Writers' Competition these are the top four prizewinning stories, as judged by Melissa Lucashenko and Benjamin Law.?

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SBS Emerging Writers’ Competition Winner: Alana Hicks.

Schism

How it feels to be a First Nations person inside a colonial education system
Emerging Writers’ Competition Highly Commended: Amy Duong.
Emerging Writers’ Competition Highly Commended: Nakul Legha.
Four winners have been chosen from thousands of entries into the inaugural SBS Emerging Writers' Competition. Read more about their writing journey and what...

Emerging Asian-Australian Writers

Read stories about love, sexuality, family and mental health by up and coming Asian-Australian voices, in an essay series edited by Candice Chung.?

When my daughter was finally old enough to read my books, I gave her a copy of each one. I have never been more scared about a reader’s feedback my whole life.
Besides affordability, there are other barriers that deter culturally and linguistically diverse Australians from addressing their mental health.
It is a powerful feeling to not only buck the trend, but to undo any prejudice or expectation that I should follow suit in a traditional career path.
To Filipinos, the family tree is always filled with a few extra branches - and we wouldn’t have it any other way.
Everything is on the table during our catch ups: Who is having sex whilst working from home? How is everyone coping with their kids? Who might be losing their job?
For many trans people, changing their name is an important part of embodying identity. But what if your name also carries your cultural heritage?
I’m beginning to say my name the way my mum utters it. I’m reclaiming my accent and it’s drawing me closer to my identity as Filipino-Australian.

Emerging Muslim women writers

Highlights from some of the most exciting emerging Muslim Australian writers.??

I missed out on the joy of swimming carnivals as a kid, but here is how I am now making up for lost time.
Growing up, I never saw anyone like me in the media or saw any (non-villainous) Muslim characters in TV shows or movies.
Black Lives Matter is forcing important conversations about race. But what we won’t voice, is that we too, the non-black Muslim community, have absorbed anti...
For me it starts, with being unapologetically proud of being a Pakistani-Muslim Indigenous woman. It starts by sharing our stories and celebrating who we are.
Did you ever in your most outlandish dreams think you would make it to the land down under? I hope I can make you proud after all you have sacrificed for me.
Even though we may be physically separated there is something sweet about knowing that cards with my messy handwriting sit in the homes of my friends.
I am an atheist, but I'm also a cultural Muslim and it took me many years of heated debates and a frustrating search for an identity to come to this conclusion.

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